Question

Hello, I live in Houston, Texas. What I am going to tell you is a little long, so please be patient. I am in my forties today. When I was ten years old, some of my older male friends at the hostel showed me how to masturbate. They made me do it as a part of ragging. I found that I enjoyed the experience, and continued the habit. That was a very bad time; I was sometimes doing that even as much as eight times a day then. I remember continuing this frequency most of the time till I was in my mid-twenties even. Then, slowly as my life became faster, its rate got reduced much – it was no more than once or twice a day. I wasn’t as interested in the act itself, but would sometimes do it just for the fun of it. I remember a phase in my life then when I had become an insomniac, and could not sleep unless I masturbated first.

My active sex life had already begun, and I was not facing any major problems on that front then. My problems began when I entered my thirties. I began to feel my penis limper when erect. In less than a month after I noticed this, I lost my drive to have sex completely. I suffered from ED as an offshoot of this loss of libido. My wife and I needed to use all kinds of sex tools to keep my drive on. I would get erections then, but they would not last for even as long as a minute.

A friend suggested I use some hormonal shots, and I tried them. Though greatly advertised on the Internet, I have not seen any effects. I confess I have also used the big blue V, but to no avail. I think my problem is deep-rooted.

The thing is, I have lost my drive for sex completely, but I still masturbate. My wife too helps me, and we have not had penetrative sex for a long time now. She is too patient with me, and does not complain, but I feel the guilt. Now we want to have kids. That will not be possible if I do not get erections enough for penetrative sex at all. I know I will never be cured completely, but at least, could you tell me a method by which I could get an erection for something like five to seven minutes so that I could penetrate my wife and make her pregnant? That is all I ask.

I have given you a background of my life just because I think it is relevant to the problem I am facing today. I thank you for your time. Please respond. - - - Al Jenkins

The Expert's Answer

Well, well, well! You have been elaborate, haven’t you? But, let me tell you, friend, your masturbation habit has gone really out of hand (and I mean no pun there!). Chances are that your member might have been grievously damaged, and you will have to really work hard at rectifying the problem. Doing this excessively does cause loss of erection. There are two factors at play here. One is your liver, which cannot release the enzymes needed for the production of nitric oxide. Nitric oxide is an essential chemical needed for getting your erections. Your parasympathetic nervous system has also been impaired due to continuous exertion on it through your masturbation habit. Perhaps your parasympathetic nervous system is so weak that is cannot take the nitric oxide, which is needed for the sexual stimulation and erection.

One more significant thing that's happening with you, considering your age, is that each time you masturbate, dopamine is getting converted to norepinephrine and then to epinephrine, which we better know as adrenaline. Adrenaline is a stress hormone, and it influences the blood pressure of the body. However, this adrenaline also blocks the bioelectric communication between the brain and the parasympathetic nervous system which is controlled by acetylcholine.

Now think about it. And you say you have already used hormonal shots to improve the situation. Most likely, these have spoiled your chances much more.

What you need is total abstinence from masturbation for a while (and even penetrative sex if you can), and a regular therapy with herbal medicines. Try to include protein foods in your diet. Milk and eggs are good, but do not lean too much on dairy products. Make it a point to have a good amount of soy products. All kinds of seafood will do well for your condition. You can also have a good deal of nutty foods. If your semen volume has also decreased, have plenty of water. Avoid soda, but have a good amount of cranberry juice and orange juice.

The Kohinoor Gold products will work nicely for your condition. These herbal products have a carefully prescribed amount of Ashwagandha (winter cherry, the Indian ginseng), along with cowhage, henbane and Shilajit, which is known as mineral pitch and has a very large number of beneficial effects on the male sexual system.

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