Question # 1

I began masturbating at a very young age – 12 years. Today I am 24 and am about to get married. My problem is a bit more serious because of my impending marriage. I have found out lately that I do not get any spontaneous erections. I was recently with a girl and was quite red-faced when I could not get my thing up. Sometimes, it happens even when I am masturbating. I have to will myself a lot to get an erection. Another thing is, I enjoy it more than actual penetrative sex. Is something wrong with me? Please advice.

The Expert's Answer

Of course, something is wrong with you. You have become an addict of masturbation. This is what happens when you start doing it too much in your early pubertal ages. Your erectile dysfunction also stems from your habit of masturbating too much. It does not cause weak erections in everyone, but it does cause the problem in a significant number of men who do it. When you perform this, there is a change in the amount of hormones in your body. Also, the brain has to work very hard due to the excessive sexual stimulation. This is what causes the orgasm in the first place. Though this feeling is very exciting each time you masturbate, you must also realize that such over-excitation of the brain will lead to some permanent damages. Your parasympathetic nervous system can be impaired with your habit. This is what causes the weak erections.

Let us see how that works. Your organ becomes erect due to several factors. However, the role of the parasympathetic nervous system is the most important. Erection occurs when the parasympathetic nerves begin releasing nitric oxide into the penile arteries through a vasodilating effect. So, it is obvious that when you do it too much, your parasympathetic nervous system is working harder than it should. The result it, it can act erroneously and the erections can fail.

Now, if you are getting married, you will definitely need those erections! One thing you can do is, reduce the frequency of your habit. Try divesting your mind in other constructive activities, and your craving to masturbate will gradually cease. You will be surprised to see how even a couple of weeks of reduced habit will bring your erections back to normal.

Regarding your weak erections, there are some natural herbal remedies that can help you. Some of the remedies that have been used since age old times are ginseng, ginkgo, caltrop, oats, maca, blessed thistle, etc. You can read up on these and find out more about their actions on the male body.

Question # 2

This is somewhat embarrassing to tell, but I just got to. I have been masturbating heavily all through my youth – from my puberty till the time I married. This was pleasurable then, but then it took its toll on my sexual capacity. Today, I have lost my sexual drive almost completely. I do not get erections often, and when I get they are not hard as they were before, and I cannot sustain them for the whole sexual act even. I also find some pain when I urinate. My scrotum has a dull pain sometimes. Are all these problems related to my habit in youth? Or are they because of some other health problem? Let me tell you that I have a high amount of cholesterol in my blood. I am in my early forties now.

The Expert's Answer

Your problem is related to the excessive amount of cholesterol in the body. A small amount of cholesterol is needed to be converted into testosterone in your body, with the help of your liver enzymes. If the liver does not release enough enzymes, then a condition alike to yours will occur. That means, there will be more cholesterol in the body with less testosterone. This is the situation that will lead to all your middle age problems such as weak erections, loss of libido, absence of orgasm, shrinkage of the organ, random pains in the body, etc. This will also cause your normal brain functioning to be impaired, which is responsible for the absence of sexual excitement in your life.

You might have compounded the problem due to your youthful masturbation habit. Each time you do this, an excess of testosterone is produced in the body, but the same cannot be given back to the cells once your habit is done with. Also, each time you masturbate, your neurotransmitters get excited, and there is no returning them back to complete normalcy. That's the reason why with every episode, you have steadily damaged your neurotransmitters.

But there is no reason to despair actually. There are many herbal remedies that have worked wonders in treating such midlife crises. Also, since you have given up your habit now, it will be easier for them to show their positive effects. You are still sexually young, and these herbal remedies will allow you to enjoy a few more years of healthy sexual life.

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