Question

I am writing this to you because I think you will help me out, and I have no one else I can confide in. I am a 17 year old boy living in Houston. I developed a habit of watching porn movies when I was 14, with my friends. We would spend nights at each other's houses and watch DVDs. Naturally, we would masturbate. This happened to be our daily routine, as all of us got quite obsessed with the habit.

Last year, I and my family moved to another neighborhood. I still remember those porn nights. Sometimes I stealthily bring DVDs into my room and watch. But the problem is, I do not become hard anymore. Initially, I used to get a very healthy and enviable erection, which continued in my new home also, but since the last two months, my erections have dwindled. I watch the porn movie and am fully aroused, but that doesn’t show in my organ, which sometimes remains limp. Even otherwise, it takes a long time rising to the occasion.

I also remember I used to have morning erections. Earlier, I had them so bad, I needed to squeeze my organ on the bed with my thighs in order to get some relief. But lately, I see my organ remains limp when I get up.

I had a girlfriend that gave me oral sex last week. Surprisingly, I had a very good erection, just as before. But when I tried to penetrate her, the erection just fizzled out. It is strange because when I penetrate her, my organ is hard from her oral sex, but within a few seconds of remaining in her vagina, it goes limp and just slips out.

Another of my sexual exploits that I think I must mention to complete the picture is that I have used a vacuum pump to masturbate. When I used to do it with my friends watching porn, one of them brought in the pump one night. I went somewhat mad with it, and pumped all through the night. My slightly curved penis was a little uncomfortable in the pump, but the pain was worth the pleasure that night.

Now my basic problem is with my loss of erection. Could you tell me some products I can use to have my nine-inch erection back? Please answer in a simple language, as I will not be able to pick up much of medical and scientific lingo. - - - Ernie Adams

The Expert's Answer

Hello Ernie! First and foremost, let me tell you that I have found a twinge of guilt in your question. Are you guilty about all those nights with your friends? Well, if you are, let me tell you, you needn't be. It is very normal to be sexually inquisitive at fourteen, and every boy does something like that or the other. It is very important that you come out of your guilt, because the brain does play a very important role in all sexual functions in the human body.

Now, coming to your problem, Ernie, I think you are suffering from a psycho-physiological disorder. Okay, sorry, no medical lingo! I am talking about your loss of erections. Your problem is not related just to your organ. The brain is also involved in a major way. There is high chance that the adventure of the nights out made the masturbation more fun to you. That explains why your male organ got more aroused when you would sneak out and watch porn with your friends and masturbate. You have probably got hooked to that, and now doing it alone does not have the same adventure for you. It happens with all of us. We begin relating something with sex, and then we get aroused more when that happens. It's as simple as, someone gets aroused with a particular scent, because that holds a relation for him with the sexual act.

I also have a very small doubt – you have to analyze that, of course, without getting offended – that you have some latent homosexual tendencies. Perhaps that explains why doing it with your same friends made you harder. There is a chance you don’t like boys explicitly, but there could be some passive tendencies. That also would explain why you like the oral sex with your girlfriend, but lost the erection when you penetrated her. But you will have the better answer for that. Are you really turned on by girls more than boys?

And then, there could be a perfectly medical answer too. Your increased habit – you mentioned toying around violently with a pump – may have damaged your parasympathetic nerve endings. If that has happened, then the brain is not able to send the proper signals to make your penis erect. This is a very common case observed in people who have used vacuum pumps. And you have been very active with it, I suppose.

Now, you will need treatment on several counts. For starters, you have to improve your erection and increase your libido. Ashwagandha is an herb that works for both these things. Ashwagandha is an Indian herb, the Withania somnifera, also popular as the Indian ginseng in the western market. Butea Superba is also very effective in these. I can recommend Butea Superba products to you for getting rid of your problems.

Lastly, your problems are not too severe yet, but you have to take care. You can try masturbating when you are fully aroused. Especially after these remedies, there's a good chance your sexual prowess will be back as before.

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