Question

I have some problems that I wish to discuss with you. These problems are related to my habit of masturbation. I am in my early twenties and have been doing this for over ten years now, without any perceivable difficulties then. But recently, when I finish my that habit, I keep feeling the jerks in my male organ for quite some time even after the orgasm as you would call it has subsided. Secondly, is there any method by which I can control the urge? I have read somewhere that putting some pressure on the muscles of the anus can control the urge. Is that true? If so, how is that actually done, and how frequently should I do it?

I want to stop this, and not lose my sexual ability at the same time. I have heard some of my friends say that if I stop it, I will lose my capacity to perform intercourse later on. Please elucidate on that.

Please provide me with answers on these problems, since they have made my life miserable. - - - Nester Calhoun

The Expert's Answer

Your first problem is about the recurrent spasms you feel in the male organ even after you have reached the climax. Now, when you have an orgasm in any way – through masturbation or through sexual intercourse, you will certainly feel some jerks in your organ for about a minute. This is a part of the orgasm, and it is governed by your parasympathetic nervous system. This part of your nervous system actually handles everything from stimulation of the organ to the orgasm. But if the parasympathetic nervous system is damaged due to some reason, then you will either find a loss of the stimulation, causing loss of libido, or you will find some erratic sexual behavior, such as is present in your recurrent jerks in the organ.

So, the first thing you will need to work at is to improve your parasympathetic nervous system. With most sexual problems, Ashwagandha works quite well. Ashwagandha, or the winter cherry, is an herb with several beneficial properties. One of the most important properties is that Ashwagandha helps in improving the coordination between the penis and the brain. It has enough powers to repair damaged nervous systems. You can find Ashwagandha as the main ingredient in both the Paradizo and the Kohinoor range of products. These products contain several other herbs that can actually help in improving libido, making your erection firmer and improve the quality of your semen.

Regarding your second question, I would answer in the affirmative. There are certainly ways in which you can use your anal muscles to reduce your urge for this habit. You can do it like this. Sit on a hard chair with your legs slightly apart. Then, try to contract the muscles of your anus. You will immediately feel the sensation at the base of your penis. Repeat this several times in a day. This exercise helps you to exercise control over your urge. It is also a very good exercise for your prostate gland.

You can also use a healthy diet to overcome your excessive urge. Go off red meats for a while, and if possible, stick to a total vegetarian diet. Consume lots of green vegetables and fruits. Try to cook the vegetables as little as possible so as to retain their natural colors. Avoid dairy products. Chicken and fish are okay. Have a large amount of water, and you can also have fruit juices often in the day if you are accustomed to it. Having cool foods rather than the hot ones is also a very good idea if you want to improve your self-control.

To answer your last question, let me tell you that your friends are totally in the wrong. They are indicating to you that if you stop doing it, then you will lose your sexual prowess, but the fact is, this is the exact opposite of what will happen. Recent studies have proved that OM can not only play havoc with your biological system, but it can also put your mental setup in a shambles. You could suffer from problems such as shrinkage of the organ, weak erections, impotence, premature ejaculation and even non-performance of the sexual act due to loss of libido. Hence there are more dangers in continuing it than in stopping it in its entirety. You must even warn your friends about these dangers. For more details on them, read the article section of this website.

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