Question

Since the age of 14 years, I have been masturbating. In the early boyhood, its frequency was very high. I used to do it as much as five times a day. Now I have married and have a healthy sexual life too. I used to think before marriage that marriage would solve my urge. But, that has not happened at all. On the contrary, I have begun liking it more after marriage. We do have coitus quite often, but several times, I end up by masturbating. There have been times when I have had an orgasm in penetrative sex, but then have gone to the bathroom and do it once again to get my total satisfaction, since coitus leaves something lacking for me. Let me also tell you I am not homosexual.

Quite certainly, I have become a compulsive masturbator. Even at work, I have to take bathroom breaks sometimes. This is all getting to be too frustrating. How do I control my compulsive habit?

There are other problems too. I have observed that my organ has reduced in size lately. I enjoy it as much as I did before, but I end up with a numb feeling in my organ after the act. I also find it difficult to make my organ hard. Only when I squeeze it very hard with my hand do I find the hardness. When I ejaculate, the amount of semen is less than it used to be earlier, and also thinner.

I do not actually feel any pains, and that is what making it all so intriguing to me. What has happened with my organ exactly? I have read a lot about it and found out that it cannot do any real harm, except the addiction. I agree I am addicted, but what about the physical changes? They should not occur, or should they?

Please help me out. Knowing that I am so addicted to it and won't be able to give it up, do not tell me that I need to stop the habit. I won't be able to do that. Tell me of some remedy that will work at improving the health of my organ, and will also help me continue with the joy I get from doing it. - - - Jason White

The Expert's Answer

Okay Jason, I have understood you quite well. But, I must be firm here. You do not know at all what is good for you. Just for the pleasures of the body, you are damaging its health – slowly, but steadily. At the rate you are going, you will end up being a male vegetable soon – a male in appearance but not in performance. And I am not just speaking of your dong down under there.

You have blinded yourself to the basic issue here. The reason you are having all those problems you have said is because you do it too often for your own good. Remember that each time you do it, stress-boosting hormones are released, such as adrenaline, and they wreak havoc with your entire system. At the same time, the levels of acetylcholine and serotonin are going down. These are the chemicals needed for you to feel the sexual stimulation. Without these, it would just be an exercise. Have you felt the pleasure of it decrease lately? I am sure you have, judging by the other symptoms you have told me about.

Whatever the other books say about it is incomplete in the light of recent findings. Pharmaceutical companies who manage huge research programs have conducted studies with men who masturbate too often. These people have found out – and the results are confirmed today by professionals and experts all over the world – that an excessive indulgence in masturbation can cause problems such as ED, impotence, loss of sexual drive, PE, seminal emissions and even penile shrinkage. Now where have I heard all these before? You can read the articles on this site to get more information and faith in what I say.

So, the basic point is that you should stop it now. Condition your mind to enjoy your sex with your wife. Go out to a lonely place and have a second honeymoon, actually. This will help you regain your lost fire, and you will also rediscover yourselves and have a more meaningful love life. But, most importantly, do not masturbate.

Only when you have stopped doing it, will you see that medicinal methods such as herbal remedies can work very nicely for you. We have products such as the Butea Superba gel, Paradizo capsules and cream and the Kohinoor Gold tablets that can help you in your various problems.

Bear in mind that you have almost become impotent. If you do not take remedial measures soon, you will reach a stage from where there will be no coming back.

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